Mother's Day

My Post for-Views on Motherhood for Hindustan Times on Desi Momz Club

Dear Desi Momz,
I'm a journalist with the Hindustan Times in Mumbai and I'm working on a story about how mommy bloggers are planning to celebrate Mothers Day this year - on their blogs, at home, with other bloggers etc. So I was wondering if the folks over at DMC would want to speak to me? I'm working on a short deadline so I hope to hear from you soon. Thanks!
Cheers,
Riddhi

This was the job to be done, but I’m making a small amendment to it and dedicating this Mother’s Day to this Mom………

She became a mother 39 years ago. She was just 19 years old, I would say really young to understand the whole meaning and responsibility of being one. The marriage happened much against her choice or will but soon she was trying to make the best out of it. With a lot of dreams in mind she entered the institution of marriage. But she was more of an unpaid home nurse for her bed ridden in-laws, a cook for her husband’s siblings. Once she became a mother the child was just another burden on her already heavy shoulders. She could not bring herself to love that beautiful bundle of joy. Her daughter hardly got to experience her mother’s love. After some time the in-laws left the world. Now she slowly started settling down into her tiny family life. That’s when she came to know about another addition into the family.

This time a baby boy was born to her. She tried to make up for the moments lost with the daughter by showering the son with all her love and time. The daughter felt left out for no obvious fault of hers. She found solace in her mom’s younger sister’s family. She was a major part of that household. The children grew up in the same pattern, with mother showering all her love and time on the son and nearly minimal of the same to the daughter. For the same reason the daughter also hardly felt any attachment towards her mother.

Time passed on and the children grew up well educated, with good jobs and got married. After the daughter had a son of her own, her mother loved and completely spoilt her grandson. The vacuum in the daughter’s mind started vanishing bit by bit. Then something happened that completely changed the lives of all of them.

The mother was detected with Cancer. The little distance what was there between the mother and daughter melted down. The son left his job in another city to be by his mother’s side. It was 2 years back that this happened. From that day the mother and children have built up a good bond. The moment they finish their work, the children rush to be by her side. She was able to do all her day to day household chores without an external help. But the past few days have been really heavy on the family. Her cancer has reached such a stage that there is nothing that can save her life.

Now she is hospitalized and under medication, to just ease her out of the physical pain. Her children are always by her side. As she is unable to talk the family sits by her side all the time and talk to her. The doctors have told that it’s helping her a lot. Mentally she is at such peace, probably which she did not experience all her life. She knows what she lost out with her daughter cannot be made up, but she is trying her best to make up by wanting her daughter to be by her side day and night.

This Mother’s Day I would like to ask God to ease her off her pains and worries. Let the children get all the courage to support their mother through the worst.

The Mother I’m talking about is my aunt. In whose house most of my weekends were spent during my childhood days. She is an awesome cook, a very creative person, a lady of few words……….What do I say about her. Just wishing that she does not have to suffer any more…

“Happy Mother's Day aunty !”